As to the questions that were asked:
Hi, michellekia.michellekia wrote:Thanks for sharing. If you have any info on how to become a medium? If that is possible? Please post it.
I am guessing it is something that you may naturally have.
My male cousin who passed away communicated with me in dreams in the past.
20 July, 2016
As far as I have been able to establish after a few years working as a translator for professional mediums, and also attending online courses, it is not just a matter of having a natural gift (so to speak), but of being brought up in a helpful environment that does not dismiss and/or discourage these experiences so that you can develop self-confidence, and finding an adequate training environment, such as a senior medium or a school of mediumship.
I have read several stories of natural mediums being bullied by their peers as children, simply because they could not tell the difference between what everyone else could perceive and what they could perceive. Some make it in the end, others don’t, but I have noticed that this also depends on one’s passion and perseverance, and also on being able to afford the challenge of mixing with other naturally gifted people. I guess that naturally gifted mediums who have had to face self-esteem issues may need to make an extra effort to recover their confidence, as confidence in your insights is one of the first things I have heard lectures and workshops on mediumship address (again I was working as a translator).
On the other hand, as I have already mentioned, I also believe that we (the universe, our planet, mankind, animals, nature, and so on) are all made out of the same raw material, so to speak, - what we usually refer to as “spirit” - and that we are all able to connect with each other if we are open to communication, motivated, in harmony with each other, not distracted by everyday concerns and not in deep pain or grief. I have found that both deep grief and scepticism can (even though not necessarily) act as a barrier to communication, and that the stronger the passion for the possibility of staying in touch with our loved ones irrespective of physical death, the stronger the opportunities. In fact, I have come to the conclusiong that our passions may well be signs that show us our path.
I have also known people who suddenly seemed to open up to this gift as adults. At that point, once again, the challenge may arise as to the need to face and mix with other gifted and trained mediums, and not everyone is available to or can afford the challenge, though the Internet is making things much easier in these days, as training sessions are offered through Skype and other reasonably affordable methods.
There also are fascinating books to read, such as the biography of well-known mediums. One that comes to mind is On the Side of Angels: Authorised Life Story, by Gordon Higginson (Tudor Press; 1st Edition edition - Mar. 1993). Another volume I have found of interest is a booklet by Harry Edwards, Guide for the Development of Mediumship, first published in the '60s and possibly only available in libraries and used book stores. Both deal with older styles of mediumship, but definitely touch on the basics. In fact, I have noticed a shift over the years from “physical mediumship”, where the medium and the circle sitters produce phenomena such as ectoplasms and direct voice, and other forms of “deep-trance” mediumship, where the medium is often unconscious and produces messages through automatic writing or voice recordings, to a light-trance form of mediumship, where the medium is conscious and able to connect with disincarnates and convey information to the sitter at the same time.
In my case, with OBEs, lucid dreaming and the like, reading about other people’s experiences proved very helpful, also in order to understand what I was really interested in.
I now look forward to hearing about your experiences, michellekia.
Hi, Natalie.Natalie wrote:
You mention that you have translated for mediums. How were these experiences for you. Did they feel like natural conversations or was there an intense element to them. It must be incredible to witness communication between those here and those on the other side.
28 July, 2016
The private sittings and public demonstrations of mediumship I have witnessed generally fell in the light-trance category I mentioned above. In private sittings in particular, the mediums used to seek a relaxed state in order to focus on the sitter (they were not allowed to hold more than a certain number of sittings a day, in order not to be depleted, as with any other job that is emotionally demanding). They explained that the session was an experiment and that there was no guarantee that a specific loved one would come through. The sitter was invited to say nothing about him/herself, but just provide “yes”/”no”/”I don’t know” feedback up to the very end of the session, when feedback is welcome. The sitter was also invited to take notes or record the reading, as things could be said that the sitter may not remember of even be aware of at the moment, but could check with other people at a later stage (the latter is in my opinion the best type of evidence, as it rules out psychic/telepathic communication between the medium and the sitter).
Even though a distinction is usually made between objective and subjective communication, I must say I have always seen the mediums I worked with use the latter. On the other hand, I have known of absolutely “ordinary” people who caught an absolutely objective glimpse of deceased loved ones with the corner of their eye (there is a scientific explanation for the corner of the eye being involved, though I would need to carry out some research on the subject) when they were fully awake and engaged in everyday chores.
There is plenty of literature on how subjective mediumship works, but the way it came across to me was that the medium would sense a connection with a specific person, coming across with the feeling of say mother, father, grandparent, child, friend, etc., coming across with physically recognisable features, certain clothes or ways that were distinctive, or even a full name. Once the sitter acknowledged that they understood who the person was, the medium would continue, by providing evidence which could range from shared memories, evidence that the deceased is aware of things happening in the sitter’s life (these could involve a lot of emotion) and possibly some advice the deceased felt a desire to offer.
Foretelling the future was strictly forbidden, but if something was already in the works and the deceased felt the need to offer encouragement about it, then that could occasionally pop out.
So, to go back to your question, Natalie, these felt more like a natural exchange between the medium and the deceased (which can also come through the use of symbols) and then between the medium and the sitter. The intense element was usually there when the evidence was absolutely unquestionable, and words of love and encouragement and constant care were exchanged, as this proved always very emotional for all the parties involved (the deceased, the medium, the sitter and the translator).
I hope this answers your questions and look forward to anyone who is willing to share their experiences with mediumship to joining in.